Lay in the bathtub with your hips under the running water. Let the warm water run over your clit and think about your most obscene fantasy. Believe me you will have an orgasm. You’ll be in there all night. I had my first when I was 8.

Have fun…

For one thing, you have to let your mind GO, in order to get the big O. You have to let it go WHEREVER. It sounds like you are too nervous to trust it and let it go crazy.
Eroticism is the key to female orgasming ( since penetration doesnt really do much) , and that involves weird shit more often than not.
I started eroticising and attempting to masterbate since I was 5, and my friends know me as the sexual one, but I don’t actually think I’m a horndog–I think what makes it easy for me, is the fact that I have a good imagination, and I let my imagination take OVER.
That’s the important part. You can’t be scared, or hesitant, you shouldn’t try so hard to control it. You’re controlling your mind too much, and the brain is the biggest sex organ in the body. You’re not O-ing because something in your head isn’t O-ing, if you know what I mean, and you need to be mentally stimulated and emotionally stimulated first, before the physical stuff can register and follow.
You also have to really embrace your body, and find what you like about it, and fixate on what you like about. Visualize someone with you while you’re masterbating to help you *think* of what it would take for someone to turn you on. What kind of foreplay. How long, where, etc–let it be a blank canvas you can paint anything you want on, on your own sweet time. Don’t rush playing with yourself, lie down, buy lotion your like, or get candles around you, and make a relaxing event of it.
Really relax with your body and your mind and then start experimenting–mentally–with what kinds of things turn you on or off.
Is it intimacy?
Is it sensuality?
Is it direct communication?
Is it physicality?
Is it the connection you have with

Don’t think about people you know yet, that’ll just stop you. Make up your dream-lover, and then you’ll realy come to understand what it takes for you to feel good, what it is you need, etc.
Then you can communicate/teach that with whomever is with you and over time, your dream lover will disappear, and be replaced by the one you’ve got.

You just have to dig a little deeper into what makes YOU tick. Not just sexually, but as a person in general. What attracts you, why, and if you had it—how would you then EXPRESS your affection for it? What kind of affection registers for you?
You’ll figure all of these things out, if you go through each option, while you’re visualizing, while you’re ” masterbating” , and eventually something will work.

A lot of eroticism, also, is about what is forbidden, or a little taboo or dangerous-hence why watching Becca play with herself was so arousing. It’s new, it’s a little bit of a no-no, by the norm, and it was intriguing. Run with that. Look up some lesbian porn ( but not the scary crazy hardcore stuff, more on the sensual end–the best thing to do is to find kissing clips in movies or scenes because those actually have chemistry and passion)

and really analyze how your heart works, and what makes it feel like it’s alive. You need to be ignited, and since nobody has done it for you yet, you’ve gotta work through your imagination’s power to figure out what that would require.

Hell I’ve even used an electric neck massager on my v before just to try it out and see if it’s arousing, and low and behold–it was.

Have fun with it! Go crazy!
ALSO: invest in good lubes, chocolate, dirty talking and breathing exercises.
Your flow of air, while you are trying to get off, is very important.

Your vagina in general should be relaxed, but you need to add some tension to the muscles in coordination with your inhales and exhales, to accentuate hormonal flow and make your orgasm intense. Apply some pressure with one palm right above your vagina below your uterus, while gently grazing your fingers around your vagina just to *explore* the area, and use getting a little wet as an arousing factor. Don’t be afraid to move your body around, thrust a little bit, bite yourself, whatever.

The key word here is exploring.

Good luck!

Your willingness to share your experiences to developed your orgasm would be helpful to many young women I think. I applaud your efforts. You even went so far as to register a domain name.

But you need to keep making entries. You got off to a good start but then nothing more. I hope you are well and nothing serious is the cause of your failure to blog more often.

Sincerely David Christian Solomon

I have stumbled upon your blog as I am searching across the net for the right info about the female orgasm, explaining it in simple words is my aim.

I have read a briefed note on askmen.com, which i posted on my blog.

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